Envy Can Be GOOD For You — Here’s How to Use It to Spur You to Massive Success
Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change — Gretchen Rubin
Ah, envy. That uncomfortable feeling of discontent aroused by someone else’s abilities/possessions/qualities/good luck.
We all experience it at some time or another, against our will. It’s a disagreeable feeling that we’d all probably prefer not to have.
But what if envy were actually good for you?
It can be, if you use it properly.
Envy Is Not Jealousy
Let me clarify.
I’m talking about envy here, not jealousy.
Jealousy is wanting the SPECIFIC thing someone else has.
Such as wanting someone’s particular girl/boyfriend or position at work. In those cases, the only way for you to get what you want is to hurt/betray/kill the person who has that thing so that you can have exactly what he has.
But envy is wanting the GENERAL thing someone else has.
If you envy a successful writer, that doesn’t mean you have to kill them off to be a successful author yourself. You just work on your writing, and in time you can have what they have as well. You can both be successful writers.
Jealousy is always destructive. But used correctly, envy can be good for you.
Envy is Motivating
We all put off the things we should do. We even put off the things we WANT to do. For reasons we ourselves can’t fully understand.
Take myself, for instance.
I woke up today and started journaling as I usually do. I wrote down my thoughts and goals, read for a few minutes, and got psyched up to get started on my writing.
But by the time I’d gotten my computer revved up to actually start writing, the feeling had faded. I…